Marrying Young

It's hard to be in your mid twenties, married, and have a child. I don't think anybody can fully understand unless you are there or have been. Some (or most in my case) of your twenty something friends (TSF) are going out nightly, sometimes single sometimes not, but definitely not usually married and don't have children. When you are a twenty something wife with a child your priorities are a little different than your friends and, it seems to me that the other TSF don't quite understand that. If fact, many just don't care about what time your child's bedtime is, why its important to keep them on a schedule, and why you can't just pack everything up and go or find a babysitter. As time goes on I find that my TSF slowly stop calling and stop taking interest in my family. Some may say, "Oh, I've been meaning to call you. Lets get together!" But you never hear from them and when you call them, there's no answer and no return phone call. Others just don't say anything and don't call or return calls.

Not to say that there aren't a few friends who even on their busiest days would like to chat, or understand that its hard to be a full time working wife and mother. Its come to my attention that those are the friends who don't care that its been 3 months since you last talked. They still want to know everything.

Yes.... this sounds like a pity party. I am aware of that. And maybe it is, but it is also something that I hope my TSF will read and understand that life is crazy, hectic, and wonderful all at the same time. There is always a load of laundry to be done, always a child crying or talking to you in the back ground..... sometimes a husband too :) Its not that you are any less important, In Fact, it may be you my TSF that keeps me sane. The one I can call and just let it all out to. The one who I want to talk to about all the crazy fun things you have done that maybe I didn't get to. Its not that we don't love our job(s) but sometimes its nice to hear about somebody else's life. Its nice to escape the laundry, dishes, vacuuming, the nap times, and the what's for dinners. Someday when you get to that time in your life when you decide to settle down, you will look back and think, how did you do this when we were twenty something? I will laugh and say, "I have no clue, but if you need any help I am just a phone call away."

I love all my TSF with or without kids and husbands, but once an awhile, if you are one of those friends who don't have the kids or a husband in some cases, call and just chat. You don't know how much that really means to me.