The People Who Make Us Feel Inferior

It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else's eyes. ~Sally Field

There are mothers out there who make comments about what the best ways of parenting. Hell, I'm sure I have even done it before I had Emma. It has come to my attention however, that all the judging and talking softly while that parent does this or that is really none of my business. This is not to say that there has been some really bad parenting out there. Like the parents who make drugs while the children are in the other room sleeping, or the parents that let their children get to be 100 lbs at only 2 or 3 years old. But, at the same time you have to step back and think, what happened for things to get to that point. Why didn't that parent think before they let that happen. The unfortunate part is, nobody can say that whatever choices were made to get them there couldn't and wouldn't happen to us. We all try to be good parents, but somewhere along the journey there was mistake after mistake made until they were lost in this huge mess.

There are parents out there who have said things to me when I was pregnant and even after Emma was born that made me feel like such a bad parent. Like don't do this or your child will die! Don't be one of those parents who just lets your child cry in public! And don't be one of those parents who breast feeds out in public either, GOD FORBID! Here's the thing, before I was a parent I thought some of these exact things. But once you become a mother, there are times when you have to be out in public and the baby, or children do cry, might need to eat and you forgot the cover at home. And who the heck are you to tell me that my child is going to die if I eat fast food while pregnant? Even now, there are mom's who make you feel like you don't deserve to be a parent. If you are a good hearted person with good morals before you become a parent, chances are those will transfer when you do have children. I have had to "put my big girl panties on" and remind myself that no matter what people say, if Emma is happy and healthy, I know I am a good mom. Even if Emma is screaming and crying somewhere if I am trying my best, I'm being a good mom.

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. ~Eleanor Roosevelt